It is always terrible to be in a state where there is no intimate marital relationship with a husband or wife.
More often, partners realize that it happens slowly as the sex wears off and often happens once a month or less.
It can get frustrating or partners can be complacent (like roommates) or both. The effect of a sexless marriage on the man is bad, but it is worse for the wives.
Either way, there are deep-rooted problems in a marriage like this that need to be recognized and fixed.
So How To Survive A Sexless Marriage?
- Ask yourself and your partner how you both got here.
- Discuss your needs openly with each other.
- Don't blame your spouse for the situation. Ask yourself what role did you play in this?
- Use 'I' vs 'You' statements and refrain from getting angry or blaming your partner.
- Tell each other that you will both commit to fixing intimacy issues.
Here Are A Few Things You Can Do To Fix The Lack Of Intimacy In Your Marriage:
1. Start by holding hands, looking into each other's eyes, and initiating physical contact.
2. It is important that you initiate physical intimacy with your partner.
3. During the day, when you're away at work, send each other romantic texts, and express how you miss them and how you can't wait to get home.
4. Talk to each other, cuddle while watching movies at night, enjoy a delicious meal together, have a bath together, or massage each other.
5. Take care of your health and physical appearance. Keep yourself fit and attractive.
6. Stop being clingy or complaining. No one is attracted to someone like that. Instead, cultivate your own interests and pursue your hobbies and passions.
7. Don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner.
8. Detox your relationship. This means leaving aside bitterness, anger, and hatred and start treating each other with love, kindness, and affection.
9. Practice forgiveness in your marriage.
10. Go out of your way to love and serve your partner and soon your sexless relationship will be a thing of the past.
11. Play sex games.
12. Play interesting sex games to spice up your relationship
13. Celebrate small achievements together.
14. Attend a marriage retreat.
15. Planning weekends and holidays. You don't have to go to expensive and far-flung destinations - even small picnics work together.
Look at the past and remember the time you were passionate about each other. Bring those moments back again in your present and future.
Seek counseling. Professional experts can help you understand your issues and guide you to work it out together.